quantitative vs. qualitative reqirements
in my past i have made general requirements of men i date. past examples have included (but not limited to): must love my dog, has to take me out, must treat me like gold, must be social, etc. in addition, i have had my loooooong list of no-nos (again, NOT limited to): no being a jerk, can't yell at me, no passive-agressive bs, can't be flakey.
while this has been a good foundation of expectations, i have found myself needing to be a little more specific with what i require. after the last few weeks of dealings with men, i am feeling the need for black & white must-haves & deal breakers.
before i give you this list, bear in mind that by virtue of my gender i am entitled to change/add/edit this list at any time and without notice.
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Quantitative MUST haves/MUST dos:
- must pay for the first 3 dates, letting me buy desert or leave the tip is a-ok
- within each date he must give me no less than 4 compliments
- he must call after said dates within 3 days, 1 day is preferred
- must open the car door 100% of the time
- see me no less than 1 time per week
- he must arrive at our decided meeting location within 15 minutes of agreed upon time
- within 4 months of dating, the words "i love you" should have been said at least 1 time. after that has already been said, must say "i love you" no less than 1 time per visit and 5 times per week
- when the words "i love you" are said to him, he must respond in kind within 10 seconds
- within 2 months of dating, there should have been a talk of exclusivity
- within a 1 month period of said exclusivity, there should be at least 1 introduction to friends/family as "his gf"
- within 3 months of dating, he must have taken AND posted at least 1 picture of us together in a public visable spot
Quantitative deal breakers:
- smoking even .0000001% of the time
- and number of children past 0
- yelling/loosing patience with my dog 2 times, everyone's human he's allowed ONE mistake
- getting physical with me 1 time
- saying the words "fuck you", calling me any profane word in seriousness 1 time, NO allowances for mistakes here
- looking at another girls' breasts over 5 times in one sitting
- owning even 1 pair of crocs clogs
- not calling when he said he would over 1 time in a 2 week period
- cancelling plans withing a 1 hour of arranged time
while this has been a good foundation of expectations, i have found myself needing to be a little more specific with what i require. after the last few weeks of dealings with men, i am feeling the need for black & white must-haves & deal breakers.
before i give you this list, bear in mind that by virtue of my gender i am entitled to change/add/edit this list at any time and without notice.
***
Quantitative MUST haves/MUST dos:
- must pay for the first 3 dates, letting me buy desert or leave the tip is a-ok
- within each date he must give me no less than 4 compliments
- he must call after said dates within 3 days, 1 day is preferred
- must open the car door 100% of the time
- see me no less than 1 time per week
- he must arrive at our decided meeting location within 15 minutes of agreed upon time
- within 4 months of dating, the words "i love you" should have been said at least 1 time. after that has already been said, must say "i love you" no less than 1 time per visit and 5 times per week
- when the words "i love you" are said to him, he must respond in kind within 10 seconds
- within 2 months of dating, there should have been a talk of exclusivity
- within a 1 month period of said exclusivity, there should be at least 1 introduction to friends/family as "his gf"
- within 3 months of dating, he must have taken AND posted at least 1 picture of us together in a public visable spot
Quantitative deal breakers:
- smoking even .0000001% of the time
- and number of children past 0
- yelling/loosing patience with my dog 2 times, everyone's human he's allowed ONE mistake
- getting physical with me 1 time
- saying the words "fuck you", calling me any profane word in seriousness 1 time, NO allowances for mistakes here
- looking at another girls' breasts over 5 times in one sitting
- owning even 1 pair of crocs clogs
- not calling when he said he would over 1 time in a 2 week period
- cancelling plans withing a 1 hour of arranged time
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