imperfekshun
i admit i am a bit of a perfectionist for myself. i generally don't hold others to such a high standard as i hold myself. i am type a- obsessed with achieving, focused on success, striving towards my goals. i am very hard on myself and, for some reason, expect nothing less than 100%.
however, for others, i love seeing imperfections...and not for the reasons you think. i find people with "flaws" very interesting & compelling. things that the rest of the world may find to be inferior, i find endearing. i do not relish in others' flaws to make myself feel superior. it actually helps me accept my flaws/quirks. i think with accepting others' it helps me accept my own liabilities and not put so much pressure on showing my assests.
i went sailing a few weeks ago w/a fantastic cool chick, very tina fey-ish & a little granola seeming. i had hung out with her before & thought she was rad- phd, funny, nice, smart as hell, and not seeming like the typical baby-obsessed women in her 30s...which made me be able to stand her.
i noticed she didn't shave her legs. not in an "oops i forgot" kinda way, but more like a "i don't shave" kinda way. at first i was puzzled- what woman doesn't shave her legs? i can't say i ever came across that. i am a meticulous & frequent leg shaver, rarely going a few days between visits w/the razor. it was actually comforting because i felt like "hey, she's rad & doesn't shave her legs...so i guess if i have stubble once in a while it's ok & i'll still be rad. i don't have to be perfect".
not only did she run around the boat completely comfy in her suit (with self described "tiny boobs"), she also jumped in the ocean & flashed some boats of young guys. i was envious of her total not-giving-a-shit attitude, which i usually carry but lately have been lacking. it was fantastic to see her joy of drunken sailing and stop worrying about my stupid self-imposed expectations.
i think her "imperfections" made me like her even more than if she showed up with a perfectly tanned body and smooth legs. i need to focus on the coolness of my imperfections more. then someone out there can think i'm just perfect just how i am.
however, for others, i love seeing imperfections...and not for the reasons you think. i find people with "flaws" very interesting & compelling. things that the rest of the world may find to be inferior, i find endearing. i do not relish in others' flaws to make myself feel superior. it actually helps me accept my flaws/quirks. i think with accepting others' it helps me accept my own liabilities and not put so much pressure on showing my assests.
i went sailing a few weeks ago w/a fantastic cool chick, very tina fey-ish & a little granola seeming. i had hung out with her before & thought she was rad- phd, funny, nice, smart as hell, and not seeming like the typical baby-obsessed women in her 30s...which made me be able to stand her.
i noticed she didn't shave her legs. not in an "oops i forgot" kinda way, but more like a "i don't shave" kinda way. at first i was puzzled- what woman doesn't shave her legs? i can't say i ever came across that. i am a meticulous & frequent leg shaver, rarely going a few days between visits w/the razor. it was actually comforting because i felt like "hey, she's rad & doesn't shave her legs...so i guess if i have stubble once in a while it's ok & i'll still be rad. i don't have to be perfect".
not only did she run around the boat completely comfy in her suit (with self described "tiny boobs"), she also jumped in the ocean & flashed some boats of young guys. i was envious of her total not-giving-a-shit attitude, which i usually carry but lately have been lacking. it was fantastic to see her joy of drunken sailing and stop worrying about my stupid self-imposed expectations.
i think her "imperfections" made me like her even more than if she showed up with a perfectly tanned body and smooth legs. i need to focus on the coolness of my imperfections more. then someone out there can think i'm just perfect just how i am.
posted by issuegirl at 8:49 AM
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